Carol Boulware, MFT, Ph.D.

Los Angeles - Santa Monica & Redondo Beach, California

Los Angeles psychotherapist helps with depression, anxiety, panic, stress, anger, sexual problems, sex therapy, communication problems, marriage / relationship difficulties, co-dependency, and adults emotionally, physically or sexually abused as children. 20 years counseling & psychology experience.

My Favorite Quotations

Teach only love, for that is what you are! - A Course in Miracles

When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us. - Alexander Graham Bell

Problems do not go away. They must be worked through or else they remain, forever a barrier to the growth and development of the spirit. M. Scott Peck, M.D.

Experience is often what you get when you expecting something else. - Anonymous

Do not regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many. - Anonymous

Mother, food, love and career, the four major guilt groups. - Cathy Guisewite

What the world really needs in more love and less paperwork. - Pearl Bailey

Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no help at all. - Dale Carnegie

Neurosis is the inability to tolerate ambiguity. - Sigmund Freud

Wisdom: to live in the present, plan for the future, and profit from the past. - Anonymous

We were placed on this earth to create, not to compete. - Dr. Robert Anthony

I am more afraid of alcohol that all the bullets of the enemy. - Andrew Jackson

If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do matters. - Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis

The universe is full of magical things patiently waiting for our wits to grow sharper. - Eden Phillpots

Everybody is ignorant, only on different subjects. - Will Rogers, philosopher

Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got. - Betty Ford

A Freudian slip is when you say one thing but mean your mother. - Unknown

I usually only takes me more than three weeks to prepare a good impromptu speech. - Mark Twain

We are all alike on the inside. - Mark Twain

When choosing between two evils I always like to take the one I've never tried before. - Mae West

Try not. Do, or do not. There is no try. - Yoda, from Star Wars II

Make your life a mission -- not an intermission. - Glasgow

A good time to keep your mouth shut is when you're in deep water. - Sidney Goff

Don't ever slam the door; you might want to go back. - Don Herold

Why not go out on a limb? Isn't that where the fruit is? - Frank Scully

Do not wait for extraordinary circumstances to do good action; try to use ordinary situations. - Jean Paul Richter

Let us not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around in awareness. - James Thurber

When in doubt, tell the truth. - Mark Twain

Hope is the feeling you have that the feeling you have isn't permanent. - Author Jean Kerr

Be like a postage stamp. Stick to one thing until you get there. - Josh Billings

Your children need your presence more than your presents. - Jesse Jackson

Every problem has a gift for you in its hands. - Richard Bach

What you don't see with your eyes, don't invent with your mouth. - Jewish Proverb

Forget injuries, never forget kindnesses. - Chinese Proverb

Follow your bliss, and doors will open where there were no doors before. - Joseph Campbell

People forget how fast you did a job -- but they remember how well you did it. - Howard W. Newton

If you can read this, than a teacher. - Anonymous teacher

Tack is the art of making a point without making an enemy. - Unknown

If you don't run your own life, someone else will. - John Atkinson

Don't smother each other. No one can grow in the shade. - Leo F. Buscaglia

Laugh and the world laughs with you. Snore and you sleep alone. - Anthony Burgess

When women are mad or depressed, they eat or go shopping. Men invade another country. It's a whole different way of thinking. - Elayne Boolser

Happiness is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it will elude you. But if you turn your attention to other things, it comes and softly sits on your shoulder. - L. Richard Lessor

Experience is a difficult teacher...she gives the test first, the lesson afterwards. - (unknown)

It's what you learn after you know it all that counts. - (unknown)

If you understand, things are just as they are. If you don't understand, things are just as they are. - (Zen Proverb)

One person can make a difference and a small group of dedicated, committed, thoughtful and loving people can change the world.

I can't understand why people are frightened by new ideas. I'm frightened of old ones. - John Cage avant garde composer

The large majority of people are asleep and do not wish to wake up. - Vincent Van Gogh

Leads

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. 11/28/95

It doesn't hurt to be optimistic. You can always cry later. 11/2/95

There is nothing stronger in the world than gentleness. 12/4/95

Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you will land among the starts. 1/10/95

Love is the only thing you can give away and still have more than you did to start with. 10/3/95

Never explain or give excuses - your friends don't need it and your enemies will not believe it anyway. 10/23/95

Power is the ability not to have to please. 12/5/96

The man who views the world at 50 the same as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life. - Muhammad Ali. 12/10/96

Of all the things you wear, your expression is the most important. - Janet Lane. 11/23/96

Don't take life too seriously; m you won't survive it anyway. - Roy Lent. 10/1/96

Be very kind to your relatives, especially your children, for they will be the ones who will pick our your rest home. Phyllis Diller. 11/20/96

For every person who climbs the ladder of success, there are a dozen waiting for the elevator. - Kathy Griffith. 11/20/96

The world may owe you a living, but it is up to you to collect. - Anonymous. 9/12/96

The pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity: the optimist, sees the opportunity in every difficulty. - L.P.Jacks. 10/10/96

A professional is a person who does a good job even when she doesn't feel like it. 9/4/96

Sometimes being taken for granted can be compliment. It means you have become a comfortable, trusted element in another person's life. - Joyce Brothers. 8/16/96

Do not regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many. 8/8/96

Stop finding fault, and find love. 8/1/96

Anyone who says money can't buy happiness just doesn't know where to shop. 4/24/96

Winners: Always have and idea - Always say, "I'll do it!" - See an answer for every problem - Always say, "I can" - Look for a way to do it. 4/11/96

The common denominator for success is work. John Rockefeller. 8/223/96

The secret of success and happiness lies not in doing what you like, but in liking what you do. 96

Coming together is a beginning; Keeping together is progress; working together is success. - Henry Ford. 7/11/96

We don't accomplish anything in this world alone... and whatever happens is the result of the whole tapestry of one's life and all the weavings of individual threads form one to another that creates something. - Sandra Day O'Connor. 12/12/96

The mind is a wonderful thing. It starts working the minute you are born and never stops until you get up to speak in public. 96

If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything. - Mark Twain

Formula for success: when you start a project, finish it. 7/13/96

It's not true that nice gals finish last. Nice gals are winners before the game even starts. 6/6/96

To build your self image, you need to join the smile, firm handshake and compliment club. Zig Ziglar. 6/20/96

Don't be afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still. - Chinese Proverb. 12/4/97

Freedom is knowing who you really are. - Linda Thomson. 7/3/97

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us. - Nelson Mandela. 10/30/97

Boren's Laws of Business: 1. When in charge, ponder. 2. When in trouble, delegate. 3. When in doubt, mumble. 3/20/97

As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated form our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. Marianne Williamson. 8/6/97

Success is getting what you want..happiness is wanting what you get. 2/15/97

I'd marry again if I found a man who had fifteen million dollars, would sign over half to me and guarantee that he'd be dead within a year. - Bette Davis. 1/30/97

People are lonely because that build walls instead of bridges. 1/22/97

All marriages are happy. It's trying to live together afterwards that causes all the problems. 1/23/97

It's not whether you get knocked down, its whether you get back up. 5/15/97

Once a woman has forgiven a man, she must not reheat his sins for breakfast. 7/7/97

As I grow older and older, and totter toward the tomb, I find that I care less and less, who goes to bed with whom. - Dorothy Sayers. 3/27/97

While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about. 4/12/97

A man is not finished when he's defeated; he's finished when he quits. - Richard Nixon. 4/3/97

Do what you fear, and the death of fear is certain. - Tony Robbins. 2/6/97

It is not fair to ask of others what you are not willing to do yourself. - Eleanor Roosevelt. 5/28/97

Spread love everywhere you go; first of all in your house. Give love to your children, to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbor.. Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God's kindness; kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, and kindness in your smile, kindness in your warm greeting. - Mother Teresa. 9/16/97

Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there. 97

Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work. - Thomas Edison. 97

A "NO" uttered for the deepest conviction is better than a "YES" merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble. - Gandi

Don't confuse fame with success. Madonna is one; Helen Keller is the other. - Erma Bombeck. 97

Edison failed 10,000 times before he made the electric light. Do not be discouraged if you fail a few times. - Napoleon Hill. 97

Opportunity is often difficult to recognize; we usually expect it to beckon us with beeper and billboards. 9/5/97

Be kind to unkind people - they need it the most. 12/19/97

True love does not demand constant gazing at each other, but true love is looking outward together in the same direction. 2/14/97

My holiday wish: this world will be a better place when the power of love replaces the love of power. 12/11/97

I would go nuts to be your Valentine -- but I'm on Prozac. 2/14/97

Whenever man comes up with a better mousetrap, nature immediately comes up with a better mouse. - James Carswell. 97

Better to do SOMETHING imperfectly than to do NOTHING flawless. - Robert Schuller. 97

Fear less, hope more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Hate less, love more; and all good things are yours. 6/26/97

The biggest changes we can ever make is to make a change within ourselves. 11/13/97

A winner knows how much he still has to learn even when his is considered and expert by others. 11/97

We attract hearts by the qualities display; we retain them by the qualities we possess. 10/11/97

Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm - Winston Churchill. 12/11/97

Seven words that have the power to make a marriage run smoothly..."You know dear, you maybe right." 7/16/97

Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach. - Tony Robbins. 98

There are times when parenthood seems nothing more than feeding the hand that bites you. - Peter De Vries. 98

The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. - Theodore M. Hesburgh. 98

A CHILD: A person who doesn't require a napkin to eat an ice-cream cone. Funny World. 98

FAX MACHINE: A device that allows someone in another state to pile work on your desk. Unknown 98

There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, "Well, here I am!" and those who come in and say, "Ah, there you are." - Frederick Collins. 4/16/98

Worry about what is best for your customer, and what is best for your company will automatically follow. 5/16/98

I have flabby thighs, but fortunately my stomach covers them. 2/19/98

Love conquers all things except poverty and toothaches. - Mae West. 98

A kiss can be a comma, a question mark, or an explanation point. That's the basic spelling that every woman ought to know. - Mistinguette. 2/6/98

Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery. - Joyce Brothers. 98

If we seek to be loved - if we expect to be loved - this cannot be accomplished; we will be dependent and grasping not genuinely loving. - M. Scott Peck, M.D. 9/20/98

Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards - Kierkegarrd. 98

An eye for eye only ends up making the world blind 10/10/98

Children need models more than they need critics. 9/24/98

Yesterday is a cancelled check; tomorrow is a promissory note; today is the only cash you have so spend it wisely. - Kay Lyons. 9/17/98

Going that extra mile puts you miles ahead of the competition. 98

Do you know, the best and quickest way to appreciate other people is to try doing their job. 8/20/98

The only thing that counts is a satisfied customer. Jan Carlzon. 98

Every closed eye is not sleeping, and every open eye is not seeing. - Bill Cosby. 98

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. 8/98

The problem with living in the past is there's no future in it. 9/24/98

Life itself can't give you joy, unless you will it; Life just gives you time and space, It's up to you to fill it. 10/8/98

A single conversation across the table with a wise man is worth a month's study of books. - Chines proverb. 6/98

Money can build a house, but it takes love to make it a home. 98

Two step formula for handling stress: 1. Don't sweat the small stuff. 2. Remember that it's all small stuff. Anthony Robbins. 98

Why not upset the apple cart? If you don't, the apples will rot anyway. 98

A mind is like a parachute it works much better when its open. 3/98

In your business there is only one boss. The customer. And she can fire everybody in your company, including you, simply by spending her money somewhere else. 3/19/98

The person who sends out positive thoughts activates the world around him positively and draws back to himself positive results. - Norman Vicent Peale. 10/30/98

To make the most of a networking event, spend 75% of your time with people you don't know. 98

Tell me, and I'll forget. Show me, and I'll remember. Involve me, and I'll learn. - Marla Jones. 3/12/98

Some individuals dream of great accomplishments while others stay awake and do them. Beth Lukens. 10/21/98

Love is what is left in a relationship after all the selfishness is taken out. - Nick Richardson. 98

Footprints in the sand are never made by sitting down. 7/9/98

Success is a marathon, not a sprint. - Unknown 7/15/98

If you think nobody cares you're alive, try missing a couple of car payments. 4/1/98

Is the glass half empty, half full, or twice as large as it needs to be? 98

There are 3 kinds of people: 1. Those who make things happen. 2. Those that watch things happen 3. Those that stand around wondering what happened. 7/2/98

Great people talk about ideas. Small people talk about other people. 6/18/98

Life is like riding a bicycle. You don't fall off unless you stop pedaling. 4/9/98

A good marriage is like a casserole, only those responsible for it really know what goes in it. 3/17/98

A woman is like a tea bag, you can not tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water. - Nancy Reagan. 5/98

A bird in the hand is safer than one overhead. 5/25/98

"Knock, Knock. Who's there? Opportunity. Don't be silly - opportunity doesn't knock twice!" 1/9/98

Always borrow money from a pessimist; they don't expect to get paid back. 7/16/98

If you think your too small to have impact - try going to bed with a mosquito. 2/26/98

To dream anything that you want to dream, that is the beauty of the human mind. To do anything that you want to do, that is the strength of the human will. To trust yourself, to test your limits, that is the courage to succeed. 1/22/98

A diplomate is a person who can tell you to go to hell in such a way, that you actually look forward to the trip. 2/99

Anyone can become angry - that's easy. But to be angry with the right person to the right degree at the right time for the right reasons and in the right way- now...that's not easy! 2/99

Failure is not the worst thing in the world. The very worst is not to try. 2/9/99

Losers look what they are going through. Winners look where they are going to. 3/5/99

When you don't have money, the problem is food. When you have money, the problem is sex. When you have both, it's health. - J.P. Donleavy. 3/11/99

Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work. 4/15/99

Don't confuse wishing with wanting. When you want a thing, you go out and get it. When you merely wish for something, you just sit there waiting for it to come to you. 4/29/99

Integrity is doing the right thing, even if nobody is watching. 5/13/99

To be successful you must make long-range goals to keep you form being frustrated by short-term failures. 5/29/99

The ultimate measure of a woman is not where she stands in the moments of comfort and convenience, but where she stands at times of challenge and controversy. 5/24/99

Your love for your mother is something that you can never completely comprehend until you are separated by the miles from her warmth and her wonder. 5/8/99

You gain strength , courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to loo fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do. - Eleanor Roosevelt. 6/1/99

Next time someone tells you "never" remember that means "not for at least one hour." 6/10/99

As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live. 6/13/99

Perfectionist: a person who cannot enjoy Tchaikovsky's music without knowing how to spell his name. 6/24/99

Fax Machine: a device that allows someone in another state to pile work on your desk. 6/99

Once a women has forgiven a man, she must not reheat his sins for breakfast. - Marlene Dietrich. 7/7/99

Somedays you're the dog, some days your are the hydrant. 7/1/99

When you come to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. - Franklin D. Roosevelt. 8/12/99

Don't be afraid to ask dumb questions -- They are easier to handle than your dumb mistakes. 8/19/99

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